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I’ll admit it-commitment has not always been my strong suit. A number of things can go wrong in any relationship, and if you’ve been hurt in the past, you’ll probably not so eager for that pain to happen again.

Some wounds just can’t be healed with a pint of ice cream and burning your ex’s photographs. If you’re dealing with this kind of commitment phobia, chances are that you simply need some time to get over your past relationships, and any new guy or girl vying for your heart will give you the space you need.

However, there’s another kind of commitment phobia that is common among young adults-one I like to call “the college experience.” Whether you go to college straight from high school or return after being out in the real world for a few years, attending college can wreak havoc on a relationship, and many couples break up because of it. Don’t let the college experience keep you and your honey from committing to one another!

1) A Different Kind of Life

Visit any college campus and you’ll quickly realize that college students don’t live a typical kind of life. No matter which campus you attend, drugs, alcohol, and sex are available at the drop of a hat. With so many new and exciting things to try, the college party scene can really change a person. It can also cause a great deal of commitment phobia.

When a guy or girl attends college parties, one of the fun things to do is meet new people, especially of the opposite sex. It’s hard to see your newfound friends hooking up while you’re stuck in a relationship.

Therefore, instead of cheating, many young adults will break it off with their significant others, saying that they can’t get the true college experience if they’re in a committed relationship.

It’s true-college is a very different kind of lifestyle. However, it is important to realize that you can successfully join this lifestyle and still be faithful to a boyfriend or girlfriend, even when your sweetie is attending a different college or still at home.

Staying in a relationship definitely isn’t the easy way out, but with a little work from both people, you and your significant other can get the college experience while still staying committed to one another!

2) Beat the Boyfriend Blues

I’ve been to enough parties to know that boyfriends don’t always want to know the types of guys their girlfriends hang out with in college. I’ve also been to enough parties to know that guys can be flirts no matter if they’re seeing someone or not.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a boyfriend who’s worried about his girlfriend at college or a boyfriend at college lusting for other girls-you can beat the boyfriend blues and commit to your girlfriend, while hopefully gaining the same respect from her.

You and your significant other don’t have to stop going out to parties in order to commit to one another. Simply follow these tips:

a) Dress appropriately-if you wear slightly more modest clothing, you can still look cute but avoid getting unwanted attention.

b) Take a camera-this simply device will keep you from being too touchy-feeling with new people you meet, since your significant other will be able to see what’s going on.

c) Answer your cell phone-call your partner often, especially if plans change, so that he or she is always in the loop

3) How to Get Over the College Experience

Remember, you shouldn’t have to force yourself or your sweetie to stay in a relationship. Sure, college can be fun, but having a committed relationship beats out a bunch of random hook-ups any day! At the end of your time at college, isn’t it better to leave with an education and a boy or girl you love, instead of just a few leftover condoms and a bunch of people you’ve seen naked?

Committed during college has another advantage as well-support. Although higher education can be fun, it is also extremely challenging. If you want to make the grades your parents dream of (or at least get somewhat close), you’re going to have to work hard. A significant other can help you get through that.

Lastly, committing to a relationship during college can keep you focused on the future. Don’t stay with someone you don’t love, but also don’t be afraid to commit. In a few short years, you’ll want to start thinking about settling down and having a family, and by committing during college, you can be sure the perfect girl or guy is by your side.